By virtue of his father being 6 foot 6 in height, my three year old (J) is a bit of a giant. The last time he was on any kind of height for age chart was when he was three months old and at his day care he is easily one of the tallest kids, even though he’s nowhere near the oldest. The other day when the shopping got delivered to our house the delivery man asked him what year he was in at school.
By virtue of his late July birthday, J won’t start Pre-Primary (proper school) until 2015 and Ant and I are a bit freaked out at the size he’s going to be by then. Now I have heard that boys benefit hugely from starting school a bit later and maybe J will also find those early school years easier if he is physically larger than the other kids too. But then I saw something the other day that made me … not worry … but think.
*Prepare yourself for a ride on a rollercoaster that is the mind of a serial over thinker*
Last week Ant and I went to pick up J from day care and as we do, we hid ourselves inside so we could observe him for a little while. Two boys (E & B) were wrestling on the ground and when they finished wrestling one started crying. J hadn’t even seen the incident but when he heard E crying he stomped over, decided B had hurt him, and promptly told B off: ‘Uh OH B!’.
Which then made B cry.
Ant and I had a giggle because it was all very cute but then it made me realise that, at what I consider the rather tender age of three, J has taken on a bit of a leadership role in his group of ragtag day care friends.
This of course got me thinking about school and the fact that by the time he gets there his size will almost guarantee him a similar kind of role whether he does it consciously or not (I would have my money on ‘not’ as J is a bit of a space cadet like his mother.)
Then I got thinking about Lance Armstrong and how he was the undisputed leader of not just the cycling teams he rode on, but the whole peloton in his years in the sport. But fear and bullying were a much greater feature of his leadership than respect was.
And I thought ‘I don’t want J to be a Lance Armstrong kind of leader, I want him to lead gently and by example’ – like all the great leaders I’ve had in my life.
Which of course lead me to wondering:
- Is this something I can teach my little boy?
- Can I teach him to lead gently?
- Should I be making the effort to sure he leads by example?
Or should I just stop over thinking things?! All thoughts and opinions welcome