In some recent travels around the interwebs I came across this post from Eden entitled All about my mother. I caught my breath at the title because posts starting this way sometimes don’t end well but to my relief, Eden’s relationship with her mum is a smile-worthy one.
At the end of said post, as all good bloggers do, Eden invited her readers to share whether they had a ‘normal’ relationship with their mothers (does such a thing exist?!) Some of what I read in the comments nearly drove me to tears. A startling number of respondents had either lost their mother at an early age, or had never enjoyed an easy relationship with their mum. As someone who has always had a wonderful relationship with their mum I found this quite heart breaking.
Eden’s post got me thinking though. How would I describe my mum to others – this person who I couldn’t live without and who has played a huge part in the person I am today. Could I do a good job of it?
Here’s what I came up with:
My mum is loving and kind, smart and resourceful, outrageously competitive and utterly, utterly maddening. She is a mind reader too because during the course of writing this she rang me three times and I had to tell her Mum, I am trying to write. It’s really hard to write when you’re being interrupted all the time!
If you are her child, she is your biggest fan and will boast to friends and family about things both sublime: Rory’s soccer team won their grand final! and ridiculous: Did you know Kelly’s boyfriend is 6 foot 6?! (this one clearly goes back a few years but still makes me laugh – I’ve been married to said boyfriend for six years now.)
My mum’s delight for the most mundane of family gatherings is something to be savoured. She derives what seems to be disproportionate pleasure from having everyone she loves in one room.
She is also honest to a fault and while this honesty sometimes make me wince, people frequently tell me I love that I always know exactly where I stand with your Mum.
I honestly don’t know where I would be or who I would be without my mum, yet I find the words I have to describe her simply do no justice. Which is why my heart sang a bit when I came across this Booktopia interview with Jenny Lawson. (Don’t know who Jenny Lawson is? She’s only the funniest person on the whole internet.)
Anyway, question eight in the interview was this: Whom do you most admire and why? Here’s what Jenny answered:
My mom. She’s the nicest and strongest person I’ve ever met and she has no idea. She thinks she’s just some background character in life, but she isn’t. She’s the one that makes it all go and she does it with no expectation of acknowledgement. She simply is good for no other reason than it is the only way for her to be. I aspire to be more like her.
Those last two lines – utter perfection: She simply is good for no other reason than it is the only way for her to be. I aspire to be more like her.
Yes. That is exactly my mum to a ‘T’. Thank you Jenny.
Happy Mother’s Day for Sunday Mom – I love you so much because you are the best