How would you describe your mother?

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In some recent travels around the interwebs I came across this post from Eden entitled All about my mother. I caught my breath at the title because posts starting this way sometimes don’t end well but to my relief, Eden’s relationship with her mum is a smile-worthy one.

At the end of said post, as all good bloggers do, Eden invited her readers to share whether they had a ‘normal’ relationship with their mothers (does such a thing exist?!) Some of what I read in the comments nearly drove me to tears. A startling number of respondents had either lost their mother at an early age, or had never enjoyed an easy relationship with their mum. As someone who has always had a wonderful relationship with their mum I found this quite heart breaking.

Eden’s post got me thinking though. How would I describe my mum to others – this person who I couldn’t live without and who has played a huge part in the person I am today. Could I do a good job of it?

Here’s what I came up with:

My mum is loving and kind, smart and resourceful, outrageously competitive and utterly, utterly maddening. She is a mind reader too because during the course of writing this she rang me three times and I had to tell her Mum, I am trying to write. It’s really hard to write when you’re being interrupted all the time!

If you are her child, she is your biggest fan and will boast to friends and family about things both sublime: Rory’s soccer team won their grand final! and ridiculous: Did you know Kelly’s boyfriend is 6 foot 6?! (this one clearly goes back a few years but still makes me laugh – I’ve been married to said boyfriend for six years now.)

My mum’s delight for the most mundane of family gatherings is something to be savoured. She derives what seems to be disproportionate pleasure from having everyone she loves in one room.

She is also honest to a fault and while this honesty sometimes make me wince, people frequently tell me I love that I always know exactly where I stand with your Mum.

I honestly don’t know where I would be or who I would be without my mum, yet I find the words I have to describe her simply do no justice. Which is why my heart sang a bit when I came across this Booktopia interview with Jenny Lawson. (Don’t know who Jenny Lawson is? She’s only the funniest person on the whole internet.)

Anyway, question eight in the interview was this: Whom do you most admire and why? Here’s what Jenny answered:

My mom.  She’s the nicest and strongest person I’ve ever met and she has no idea.  She thinks she’s just some background character in life, but she isn’t.  She’s the one that makes it all go and she does it with no expectation of acknowledgement.  She simply is good for no other reason than it is the only way for her to be.  I aspire to be more like her.

Those last two lines – utter perfection: She simply is good for no other reason than it is the only way for her to be.  I aspire to be more like her.

Yes. That is exactly my mum to a ‘T’. Thank you Jenny.

 

Happy Mother’s Day for Sunday Mom – I love you so much because you are the best :)

 

 

 


Comments

  1. says

    Well Kel,

    It really is wonderful to read your comments and thoughts written here – the kind of mother’s day present to treasure for ever.

    Of course, like most mums I believe, I think my children are the most wonderful of all, even though I sometimes think it my duty to tell you all somewhat unpalatable truths :). To me you are all the greatest and I love to pass on news about you which I suppose just shows my pride and joy in you all.

    I am not sure I am such a good person, but I do try.

    Thank you for this lovely insight into your feelings about me – it is so truly appreciated.
    I love you,
    Mum

  2. says

    I’ve just spent a very enjoyable half hour catching p on all your posts… I’ve been a bit MIA sinc the lunch post!!

    I don think I would ever publicly describe my mother the way I would want to. I could do a really good job describing her (very) good points, but that would only be half the story…

    But our relationship is a fine one. x

    • says

      Oh hello you. Them is lovely words!

      And I am most happy to hear your relationship with your mom is a fine one. I get really upset to hear about ANYONE who doesn’t have the same!!

  3. says

    My relationship with my mum… well, it is what it is. And it’s taken me a long time, but I’ve learned to accept it. She’s ok. We’re ok. In another life it might be different…. but in this one, it’s ok.

    • says

      I like OK. I think we expect so much of our mums and sometimes they just can’t live up to those expectations! ‘OK’ means you’re at peace with that!

  4. says

    Beautiful post Kelly. Someone was looking out for me when it came to mothers and granted me someone pretty special to make up for an at times average father. I love that she bragged about the height :)

  5. says

    I’ve just gone and visited Eden’s post on this too… my, what a challenging topic!

    Like so many others, my mum and I have been to hell and back. To me, forgiveness is a BIG word. Yet, we survive today… and she is a wonderful grandmother.

    I can’t write all there is to write… she still corrects my grammar for goodness sake!

    Yet above all, there is a deep love – distorted, yes. But love nonetheless.

    I know my mum was the best mum she could be under the circumstances. For my own little one, I find it’s more about altering those circumstances.

    It’s a crazy, tricky world being a mum. You give all that you have. Whether that is actually enough will never be known until it’s too late.

    • says

      That’s such the key isn’t it? Knowing your mum did the best she could with the circumstances she was given. Sometimes I think we expect more from our mums than they can give … and it’s not till we are mums ourselves that we understand!