A friend shared these words by Seth Godin on Instagram yesterday.
And I was reminded of the very first time I read them. It was around the time I wrote this blog post.
Go ahead – have a read and see what my days used to look like. I’ll wait.
Suffice to say – I was stressed out of my mother-loving mind and two months shy of a complete breakdown. It was during this period I read something from Seth where he talked about being on holiday. He was checking his email at the hotel and caught people staring at him with pity, thinking how sad it was that he was working while on holiday.
Seth however didn’t think it was sad. He thought it was awesome he loved his work so much he had zero problem doing it whether on holiday or not.
Far out – that blew my mind at the time. What I would have given back then to have work I wasn’t trying to escape from.
Well … fast forward three years and you know what? I am just about there. In fact, screw that. I am there. I love my work life (actually all of life) right now. Sure it’s busy and sure it’s not perfect (because what life is) … but I am pretty bloody happy and whenever I go on holiday somewhere, I want to take my work with me. I know this may make me sound like a workaholic but it’s quite the opposite. The line between work and play is now really blurred for me in a pretty awesome way.
My clients are unreal … and for the most part have become great friends. I love the mixture of stuff I get to do every day.
Yes I’d rather not attend any meetings or do any admin, but hey, this isn’t Utopia you know!
So what am I trying to say here?
I guess I’m trying to say that it’s easy to just give in and accept that life is hard, will always be hard and that’s just how it goes. That’s where I was three years ago. I’d kind of given up trying to make things better because I’d decided ‘better’ wasn’t possible.
We all have something we’re trying to escape from. For me it was work because essentially, it was killing me. For others it’s toxic people or heartbreak or financial stress.
I understand that some shitty things (like illness) can’t be engineered out of our lives.
But most things can.
And the best place to start is with the belief that things can be better.
I’ve been in that situation of despair. Of no belief. And it was awful.
It was a place where I thought ‘what’s the point/life’s too hard/maybe it would be easier to take myself out of it’.
It’s been years of really hard work getting through that to the other side. Two steps forward, one step back. Two steps forward, three steps sideways. Constant vigilance and management to ensure I don’t slip back into old patterns and ways and fall back down the rabbit hole.
And the thing that stops me slipping is belief. The belief I now have that life can be lived on my terms.
That belief is what makes me resilient, helps me through the hard times and makes me super appreciative of the good.
It’s funny – I was at a breakfast a few weeks ago where Michelle Bridges said when you want to make change in your life ‘it all starts with belief’. At the time I thought to myself ‘no way, it all starts with knowing what you want.’
But actually now I can see Michelle was right.
It really does all start with belief.
Thoughts? Am I just peddling aspiration porn here … or do you think we really all do have ultimate control over our destinies?